Tuesday, May 24, 2011

Sex isn’t Everything BUT...

Many will argue that sex isn’t everything in a relationship. Sex is a good way to know if the relationship is on track or not. When sex is less frequent, it may be because of one of the following:
  1. Don’t like sex - Sex, to some people, may be a reminder of bad experiences or they just don’t like the feeling (the prior is more common though).
  2. Too repetitive/not exciting - We’re creature of habits and sex tends to become more of a habit, in the long run, than something exciting. Sex should be more than just a release. Let your imagination run wild. Trying new things is the best way to know if you’re going to like it or not.
  3. Relationship Issue that needs fixing - Relationships comes with it’s own set of problems. It’s impossible to have a perfect relationship, it’s something that should be constantly worked on. A relationship is something that you do and not something that you have. The problem is often not with your partner, it’s how you see your partner. Life is not about finding the perfect person. It’s about learning to love an imperfect person perfectly. Every situation is different. Communication is key.
  4. The sex isn’t good - If you and your partner just don’t connect sexually then logically it won’t happen often. More on this bellow.
When the sex isn’t good you can ...
  1. Tell - Everyone likes different things, by letting your partner know what you like, the sex will become better. Practice makes perfect, give your partner lessons on how to pleasure you and how you can pleasure your partner.
  2. Endure - I love sex too much to endure it. However, I may do things that I don’t necessary like just because I know my partner does.
  3. Take control - If you’re afraid of telling your partner, taking control may help your partner figure out what you like.
  4. Change partner - If the sex ain’t good, the connection will gradually deteriorate to the point where you’ll want to leave to experience different things. I do recommend on working on it rather than changing partners.
For more on this … well just look online. It’s really hard not to come across a site for adults these days. “Studying” those site may help you find new things to try.

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