Living with urgency - Tomorrow isn’t Promised

If it’s not now then when? If it’s not done now, what are the chance that we’ll be able to do it at another time? Something else will come up, or our time on this earth will end.

We don’t have 1000 years. We barely can make it through 100. No more procrastination! If something needs to be done, it needs to be done now.

We can learn from the pass and the pass is done. The future can be planed but the future is not upon us yet. The “NOW” is all we got. We’ll never see this moment again, ever.

We have one chance, give it all you got.

Lying Less Starts With You

If we are the one person we love the most in the world and we sometime lie to ourselves. Why wouldn't we lie to other people?

Telling ourselves we’re going to do something and we end up not doing it is a lie that, over time, affect how we see ourselves. We’re not stupid, we will end up not believing ourselves and it will make us feel like a looser.

It’s a simple fix but not an easy one. We just have to commit to what we say. We have to become people of integrity. It all begins with the small decisions.

Sex isn’t Everything BUT...

Many will argue that sex isn’t everything in a relationship. Sex is a good way to know if the relationship is on track or not. When sex is less frequent, it may be because of one of the following:

1. Don’t like sex - Sex, to some people, may be a reminder of bad experiences or they just don’t like the feeling (the prior is more common though).
2. Too repetitive/not exciting - We’re creature of habits and sex tends to become more of a habit, in the long run, than something exciting. Sex should be more than just a release. Let your imagination run wild. Trying new things is the best way to know if you’re going to like it or not.
3. Relationship Issue that needs fixing - Relationships comes with it’s own set of problems. It’s impossible to have a perfect relationship, it’s something that should be constantly worked on. A relationship is something that you do and not something that you have. The problem is often not with your partner, it’s how you see your partner. Life is not about finding the perfect person. It’s about learning to love an imperfect person perfectly. Every situation is different. Communication is key.
4. The sex isn’t good - If you and your partner just don’t connect sexually then logically it won’t happen often. More on this bellow.

When the sex isn’t good you can ...

1. Tell - Everyone likes different things, by letting your partner know what you like, the sex will become better. Practice makes perfect, give your partner lessons on how to pleasure you and how you can pleasure your partner.
2. Endure - I love sex too much to endure it. However, I may do things that I don’t necessary like just because I know my partner does.
3. Take control - If you’re afraid of telling your partner, taking control may help your partner figure out what you like.
4. Change partner - If the sex ain’t good, the connection will gradually deteriorate to the point where you’ll want to leave to experience different things. I do recommend on working on it rather than changing partners.

For more on this … well just look online. It’s really hard not to come across a site for adults these days. “Studying” those site may help you find new things to try.

Being Attractive is Important in a Relationship

One of my biggest flaws was that I would stop caring about myself, physically, once it would get comfortable in a relationship.

Some will argue that the appearance isn’t everything and I now find it’s only partly true. Being ugly or pretty isn’t what’s important. It’s taking care of ourselves that is. Things like grooming, good clothing, good health/fitness. Things that will make us feel attractive.

If you go to the mall with your partner. How will your partner feel if you get a “your attractive” comment? Your partner will feel better than if you got told “what’s that thing” I can guarantee it.
Being physically attracted to each other also adds up to the pleasure when things gets intimate. How you feel about yourself shows the most in those moments and can help raise the passion.

What do you do to feel attractive?

Good goes Unnoticed

Have you ever felt like the good you do to people often go unnoticed? Why is it so often overlooked? Why does the good that people do to you goes unnoticed?

My belief is that people have different ways to do good to other people and they’re often blinded to ways that isn’t their own. Maybe doing good for you means to clean the house or maybe it’s giving compliments and smiling or maybe it’s something else!

It’s important to do good anyway, not only is it the right thing to do; doing good is like adding water to a glass, eventually it will overflow and the person will finally notice the mess on the table.
Sometimes, little hints like “Have you noticed I did the dishes today?” can help them find and appreciate the good you do.

I’m aware that there’s some people out there that are just blinded by negative and can’t see any good things. The people who deserves it the least often needs it the most.

Do good things :)