She'll Feel You're Trying to Understand Her When...

• you listen and can repeat back what she said.


• you don't try to "fix her problems" unless she specifically asks for a solution.


• you try to identify her feelings.


• you never dismiss her feelings, no matter how illogical they may seem to you.


• you say, "I appreciate your sharing that with me."


• you don't interrupt her whe she's trying to tell you how she feels.


• you apologize and admit you were wrong.


• you cut her some slack during her monthly cycle.


• you see something that needs to be done and you do it without a lot of hassle.


• you express appreciation for all she does: "Honey, I could never do your job."


• you pray with her and for her.

-Page 154 of "Love & Respect" by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs

Your Wife Feels you Are Open To Her When ...

• you share your feelings, telling about your day and difficulties.


• you say, "Let's talk," ask her what she's feeling, and ask for her opinions.


• your face shows you want to talk-relaxed body language, good eye contact.


• you take her for a walk to talk and reminisce about how you met or perhaps you talk about the kids and problems she may be having with them.


• you pray with her.


• you give her your full attention... no grunting responses while trying to watch TV, read the newspaper, or write e-mails.


• you discuss financial concerns, possible job changes, or ideas for your future.

-Page 144 of "Love & Respect" by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs

Your Wife Feels Close to You When...

• you hold her hand.


• you hug her.


• you are affectionate without sexual intentions.


• you are with her alone so you can focus on each other and laugh together.


• you go fo a walk or jog... anything that results in togetherness.


• you seek her out ... set up a date night ... eat by candlelight.


• you go out of your way to do something for her, like run an errand.


• you make it a priority to spend time with her.


• you are aware of her as a person with a mind and opinions... let her know you enjoy discussing things with her and getting her insights.


• you suggest the unexpected... get takeout and eat on the beach... take a walk to see the full moon... park on the bluff and watch the sunset.


• you pillow talk after making love... lie close with your arm around her and share feelings and intimate ideas... and never turn on SportsCenter or Nightline.

-Page 133 of "Love & Respect" by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs

You Can Be Whatever You Want To Be!

There is inside you
all of the potential
to be whatever you want to be,
all of the energy
to do whatever you want to do.

Imagine yourself as you would like to be,
doing what you want to do,
and each day, take one step
towards your dream.

And though at times it may seem too
difficult to continue,
hold on to your dream.

One morning you will awake to find
that you are the person you dreamed of,
doing what you wanted to do,
simply because you had the courage
to believe in your potential
and to hold on to your dream.

~ Donna Levine ~

To Be a Kid Again

With a kid, things seems to be real. It's like you can be a kid again around them, and it's ok for you to be. You don't have to be afraid of being scammed, or pretend to like them; you just do.

Around the age of 12, they start to change. They stop being themselves because it's no longer "appropriate" based on older audience opinion. They begin to worry, they have doubts and fears. They start to compare themselves to others.

Einstein said "We're born geniuses but thought how to be idiots."

They start to understand more of what's on T.V., the internet, the radio. That sex,drugs and alcohol is what life is all about. That it's ok to be average, not to strive in life and that if success doesn't come to them, when they're watching 20 + hours of T.V. a week, it means that they weren't meant for it.
They're being told that dreams are just for kids, that they can't have what they want out of life. That some people can, but not them.

Lets be kids again.