Self-care is Your Responsibility

“If you want to command your own life in a way that benefits you and harms no one else, first clear your own faults out of the way.” -Seneca

In an Airplane, if cabin pressure drops, oxygen masks deploy, and you're told to secure your own before assisting others. It ensures you're conscious and capable before trying to help anyone else. But this principle also applies to life more broadly—self-care isn’t selfish; it’s necessary. Additionally Self-care is your responsibility: You're responsible for your mind, heart and body. 

In a relationship, it's normal to want the well-being of your partner, and support each other, but ultimately your partner is, also, responsible for the "heavy-lifting" in regards to their own self-care as you can't force someone to take care of themselves.

Many people are miserable because self-care requires the sort of effort they're not willing to partake in. The longer someone remains miserable the more difficult it is to get out of it as they find comfort in their misery. They can become familiar with their pain, even attached to it, because at least it's known.

Self-care is the secret of living well. Life is better when you feel good about yourself.